You do not need to be told that
divorce is a major life decision. If you are thinking that you are finally ready
to file, your gut is probably right. However, it never hurts to apply
more forethought to the process as well as what you can expect during
and after your divorce.
Before you file your divorce paperwork, consider these 7 factors:
First or final option: Most people who regret getting a divorce are those who file while they
are angry, or who jump to it at the first sign of marriage duress. Sit
down and think to yourself about all the reasons why you are certain you
want to divorce. Even if you don’t need any more reassurance that
you are making the right decision, this can help you remember what will
be your priorities during the divorce.
Current finances: Make yourself familiar with your marital finances before you file. What
is in checking accounts? How about your credit card statements? You need
to know all about liabilities, obligations, debts, and so on that could
end up yours after the divorce. Don’t forget to look into cost of
divorcing so you aren’t blindsided by that, too.
Future expenses: Try to get a reasonable grasp on what you can expect to need financially
in the future. Start budgeting
right now to point yourself in the right direction. Consider things like living
expenses, the price to finish any degrees you are working on, car payments,
etc. All of it should be known, especially if you are going to seek
Child custody: If you share children with your spouse, you definitely need to go over
your proposed child custody plan one more time, for the kids’ sakes.
Realistically approach the situation when deciding who would be better
suited to be the primary custodian. Or, would a true 50-50 split of parenting
time be the best option? Only decide with your child’s best interests
in focus because this is exactly what the court will do when making its ruling.
Family home: Along the same lines of approaching child custody realistically, reconsider
what will be best and easiest for you and your spouse regarding the family
home. Do you want to fight for it, or sell it and split whatever profit
there might be? Either way you choose, you should not volunteer to leave
the family home after filing for divorce. This can be seen as the court
as your willingness to give it up, which hurts your chances of winning
Career: Time to think about your job and how your divorce factors in. Is your current
career going to be enough to sustain you after your divorce finalizes?
If not, you may want to consider starting university for a higher degree.
This initiative to better your situation is looked upon favorably by judges
Legal separation: Lastly, one more time, is divorce the answer to your marriage troubles?
Or could legal separation work just as well? Legal separation gets you
essentially the benefits of divorce without losing many of the benefits
of marriage, such as helpful tax breaks. Furthermore, if you and your
spouse decide you miss each other and want to try to work things out,
it is much easier – and cheaper – to undo a legal separation
than it is a divorce.
Point yourself in the right direction and make all the necessary considerations
before filing for divorce by
consulting with Stolar & Associates, A Professional Law Corporation and our Beverly
Hills divorce attorneys. We have decades of legal experience, a Board
Certified Family Law Specialist on our team, and always tailor legal strategies
and counseling for each client – nothing is given a cookie-cutter
approach! Get to know more about your options and our services by
contacting our firm at your next opportunity.